Hi. I’m Clay. Welcome to my little corner of the www. The web’s a big place, so I’m glad you found me.
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I started this site for a number of reasons. Mainly, because I have some stuff to say about courage and fear. Stuff I believe can help us evolve, as individuals and a collective, and stuff I believe needs to be talked about sooner, not later.
I’m a multi-passionate, aspiring polymath (emphasis on aspiring). Because of my wide-ranging interests, I’ll discuss topics from personal development and psychology to business and entrepreneurship, from adventure and travel to nature and evolution, from consciousness and spirituality to entheogens and drugs, from addiction and mental health to crime and justice, from culture and politics to law and freedom, from philosophy and history to technology and the future of life on earth. All within a context of courage.
The context being:
a) it’ll help you become more courageous by reading, considering, and applying it;
b) it’ll help me become more courageous by writing, speaking about, and practicing it;
c) it’ll help society become more courageous by us describing, discussing, and disseminating it.
Who this site is for (and not for)
If facing fears, building bravery, or any of the topics above interest you, I believe you’ll enjoy your time here.
But I will say, my flavour of intellectual inquiry isn’t palatable for everyone. I’m interested in topics well beyond society’s popular, politically-correct comfort zones. Unconventional topics that some may deem “controversial”, but that I believe are critically important to discuss.
“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”
~ Tim Ferriss
Basically, if you don’t like looking inward and asking yourself tough questions about yourself, your life, and the world…
… or if you want to have your preexisting beliefs and biases validated,
… or your dogmatic, dangerous ideologies blindly supported and pandered to,
… or if you insist on blaming [insert guilty party here] for why your life is not the way you want it to be,
… then you may not enjoy or benefit from much of what I have to say.
But, you may enjoy and benefit from what I have to say if you want to:
- know yourself better
- face your life-limiting fears
- work towards your personal evolution
- overcome your self-doubt and inner critic
- build your self-confidence and self-efficacy
- stop procrastinating doing your ‘Brave Work’
- create and share your creations with the world
- speak up about important yet controversial topics
- think skeptically about the propaganda of the times
- learn about the mind and how it can play tricks on us
- get over fear of rejection and meet your dream partner
- serve others with your skills, knowledge, or experience
- do something adventurous that scares the shit out of you
- battle your personal devils to reach new existential levels
- take responsibility for your emotions and experiences in life
- challenge dangerous “PC” opinions and mainstream viewpoints
- have your “PC” opinions and mainstream viewpoints challenged
- start a business that allows you to serve in ways meaningful to you
- grow your business and increase your impact, influence, and income
- redesign and redefine who you are, what you do, and why you’re here
- strengthen your mental “courage muscle” so you can strive for the above
These are the areas I’m constantly working on myself. I’m no master. Just a student also trying to figure out this thing called life. I don’t have all the answers, but I’m happy to share what I’m learning and discovering in these areas as I go.
If any of these points resonate with you, you’ll likely enjoy what I enjoy writing about.
“But why courage?” you might ask.
“Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.”
~ C.S. Lewis
Well, if you want to take real-world, consistent action towards achieving any of the above, or anything you struggle with, you’re going to need anywhere from a little to a whole lot of courage.
And not just once, or occasionally, but often.
Courage – the ability to willingly endure and embrace what is discomforting, difficult, or even dangerous – is one of the most important non-cognitive meta-skills we can develop in life, both early on and throughout it.
Unlike most specific, specialized skills, courage is transferable and can benefit all areas of our lives, not just a select few.
“Courage is rightly esteemed the first of human qualities . . . because it is the quality which guarantees all others.”
~ Winston Churchill
But even though it can transform our lives and society for the better, true courage is still one of the rarest of human qualities. Some might argue it’s a seriously endangered quality at risk of going extinct.
For most of us (myself included), our courage can be sporadic, and our cowardice can subvert, sabotage, and even corrupt our best efforts and intentions.
“Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage.”
~ Maya Angelou
So the questions I found myself often asking were “If courage is so helpful, if it can improve both our lives and society in so many ways, why don’t we ever learn how to be brave? Why doesn’t anyone teach us courage growing up? And how do we develop, strengthen, and hone it ourselves?”
We’re taught A,B,Cs, and 1,2,3’s when we’re kids, but never learn even the basics for how we might overcome the obstacles of our inner and outer-reality.
We can easily blame society, schools, teachers, or our parents for not modeling courage or teaching us how to be brave growing up.
Or, we can take the higher road, and take responsibility ourselves for becoming braver today.
Lucky for us, courage is a mental muscle developable in any context, at any age, and at almost any stage of atrophy.
I believe the many crises we face on our planet today are crises of conscience and consciousnesses. And that these types of crises are, just below the surface, crises of individual and collective courage.
“One man with courage makes a majority.”
~ Andrew Jackson
Call me weird, but I’m a ruthless optimist that true courage can eventually become a common practice, and maybe even a cultural norm in my lifetime.
But I’m also no Pollyanna. The reality is there are many powerful cultural and political trends that need to be consistently countered if a culture of courage has a hope of ever existing.
So, with that hope in mind and heart, I’m going to share ideas for how we can exercise and strengthen our courage, and call attention to what I see as the greatest hindrances to its development.
My goal with my writing and work is not to appease and appeal to everyone online. I would fail big time attempting such a foolish feat.
It’s to help those who want to grow and upgrade their lives get comfortable with the prerequisite discomfort. Because comfort and growth are always mutually exclusive.
It’s not sexy, but it works if you’re willing to do the work. Your courage can’t build itself. And like any muscle, if you don’t use it, you’ll lose it, and it will fail you when you need it most.
My mission is to help men seek growing pains with intention and intelligence, and embrace discomfort, (eu)stress, struggle, and even suffering, as training tools to build character strength and personal power so they can endure life.